Week 17: What’s the word?

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Word of the week

This week my featured word is COURAGE.  Yesterday I displayed a lot of it.  Mind you I am a fitness pro that has always wanted to do motivational movies, V-Logs( ya get it???) and video conversations with just my friends. I haven’t done it in the past because I got”busy” but by the same token, I was scared of the ridicule. I am not a size 000 by any means and I never will be.(That’s another discussion I won’t get into. Anyway back to the subject at hand).  Well MKE Familia yesterday I went live on Facebook (www.facebook.com/victoriaaldavenport) and Instagram(@victoriathefabulous)!!!!!!!!! I can’t believe it.  I still can’t believe it.

The leader’s mantle

I never do that stuff, but something in me said it’s time.  It’s time people see you now and watch the journey with you. I allowed myself to get sucked into seeing the final product instead of the process.  I realized every leader on the planet in past, present, and future will be criticized that is the leader’s mantle.  Why?

One, the people you are responsible for cannot see what you see because they are not in your place. Two, sometimes the people you are responsible for do not have the vision you have and even once it’s communicated to them, they don’t have the faith that it will work.  What is the end product? Ridicule.

A Change In Pace

So I was watching one of my favorite preachers talk about the concepts in his latest book called Soar.  TD Jakes said, “as a public figure, you have to become tougher—-not meaner—tougher”.  Steven Furtick, the interviewer asked him,” what does that mean?” I’ll tell you all the paraphrased version, He took his son to the Rock of Gibraltar and noticed a lot of monkeys all over the car as they were ascending the rock.He was informed by their tour guide that it gets to extreme temperatures and their tales freeze off. Their offspring eventually were born without tales because they had adapted to their environment. Bishop Jakes said,” that is what I mean by being tougher. You have to freeze your tail off [to adapt to the environment of ridicule and all that comes with being a public figure]. In my heart, I said, “I got it”.

Next thing I know I said in my heart, “I am ready for the fires of ridicule because I will meet them with love  and at best, I will burn off the weights I don’t need and at worst I will know who I can not trust.  Let the games begin.”

So here we are fam.  I did the FB  and IG live video yesterday without hesitation. Next will be Youtube videos with a unique view on health fitness and financial fitness as soon as I buy a suitable camera and video chips.  I realize there are many health and fitness icons out there.  I get it and in truth, I don’t want to be an icon, I want to be effective in helping my family and my community become healthier. There is so much information out there that it would make your head spin but that is what you have us for.

Cowardly Lion who?

My last post I told you all that I was committing to paying attention to who was trying to control my time.  That takes courage. Every yes you give is a no to you for something you may need.  The courage to protect my time, my heart and my sanity it like a breath of fresh air for me.

I realized that it’s okay to be a magnet, just make sure the people you attract don’t transform from magnet to vampire and suck the very life, talent and drive out of you. I used to tell my students I was responsible mentoring at a local university, ” Pay attention to who people are.  They will always show you who they are without fail if you just listen and watch(if you met them while they were gossiping about someone else, they will do the same to you given the right amount of pressure).  If they walk, talk and act like a snake then why are you treating them like a puppy?  You can not do that. Pay attention to who they are and treat them accordingly in your relationships. They certainly are doing the same to you.” As always, I look forward to hearing from you.  Have a wonderful week! Give ‘em heaven.

Live long and live strong,

Vic

p.s. if you want the link to that interview let me know.

p.s.s. I can’t figure out how to add the social buttons so I just gave you all the links and handles to my pages:).

Week 16: The hidden Pearl

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Uncovering pearls

So by now, you all know I have a flair for drama.  It seems that has been since I watched the Gummie Bears and Gem. I am beginning to see somethings this week.  This week my shape I chose was a green triangle and every time I see one I say with gusto,” look! kindness!!!!”  So I was driving home last night I realized something very powerful I once heard John Maxwell.  He said, ” you must control your calendar or others will do it for you.”  I thought to myself, this is the root of some of the issues I am dealing with.

This is why there is a struggle in my life.  I am allowing others to run my calendar.  Another principle I learned from him was the 24-hour principle.  Which are you have 24 hours to rejoice your victory or lament your defeat, learn from it and move on to the next goal.  So that said, I am over it.  I will be more sensitive to pay attention to when others are trying to make their emergencies my own.  I realize at the end of the day, people will always find their solution to their problem with or without you.

OG

I am really enjoying this scroll 4 and I will tell you another pearl I discovered.  When I was 12 years old I realized something very powerful and it was this: guys will always notice you because that is what they do.  It doesn’t matter what I wear or what I am doing.  What matters is how I carry myself because that will determine who will approach me. So that set me free. I also realized that there will always be someone prettier, sexier, smarter, more cunning, more talented than I am, so I have two choices.  I can live my life in consistent envy or rejoice in the uniqueness of how God me. There is only one me and that in itself is gorgeous.

So I decided to glory in my own uniqueness so when I read this scroll my mental reaction was, “say what?!  This is how I live my life”.  It’s always beautiful when you are reassured that you are walking the right path.  I love how OG said,

“I will increase my knowledge of mankind, myself and

the goods I sell, thus my sales will multiply.

I will practice and improve, and polish the words I utter to sell my goods for this foundation on which I will build my career and never will

I forget that many have attained great wealth and success

with only one sales talk, delivered with excellence”

I love this because it’s talking about the practice principle.  The more I practice the better I perform and the less stress I have because I am ready for the problems that come my way.  Regardless of talent, we always have the chance to “wing it” or practice it and that is what Og is saying.  Excellence stems from practice not winging it.

Kindness

This week is really really cool.  I enjoy being kind to people but finding the kindness of others has been really fun as well.  It is almost like playing clue, “who is going to commit an act of kindness”?  I love it. Last night I helped a friend with an impossible task so she could be at peace.  Yesterday I watched a guy open the door. Last night I gave my co-workers gum that had truth or dare questions on the gum wrapper.  So you can guess what they did during their shift.:)

I hope you all are doing well this week and like an avalanche, the cement is falling off of you daily. Remember to keep flashing;).  I can’t wait to hear from you.

XOXO,

Vic

 

 

It’s me, deal with it.

I know I know…my title is dramatic, but hey I am a person of flare, deal with it.  So like the song from Toy Story says, “strange things are happening to me”.  I am indefinitely beginning 19424741_178885965980117_5483821837034979328_nto do things without hesitation.  Thursday I found myself going to banks asking questions about business accounts because it occurred to me that when my DMP completely manifests, I am going to need a place to put all this money.  I couldn’t believe I was doing it.  I just came out of my mouth!

 

 

 

Bro/ sis…

And listen, I am have been more productive TODAY than I have of all of 2017.  Maybe that is a bit of an exaggeration but it feels that way to me anyway.  Last weeks word for me was discipline we were instructed to add a shape and color to it to remind us of it.  So what did this girl do you ask?  I chose a red circle.  Why? It’s simple,  I commute frequently to teach multiple fitness classes.  So I figured the back of cars consistently reminded me of my word you know stop lights, etc…

I am a disciplined person by nature, but I want to hone in on doing the things I don’t like to do but are necessary if I am going to thrive and not just survive.  Surviving was so 2016 and I am over it.  This week’s word for me is kindness.  I am going to work on courage as well, I have it in me, I know but I want to be the courageous business woman I know is inside me just waiting to bust out and do her diva strut.  I can’t wait to meet her. She’s going to be fun…I can tell;). To be honest, I am excited about this week of kindness.  It’s going to literally rock the world. No…the galaxy. I am not on the alien train but if they do exisit they are going to feel some serious love vibrations from this planet this week.

Revelations

I did a lot of thinking this week.  I told you all last week that I helped my mom move due to Harvey and she was asked to leave her home of 27 years.  I made up my mind that I am ready for the responsibility, the mantle of being a leader and the joy and pain that comes with it.  We always pray for the rain, but we never prepare for the mud that comes with it. I am ready for the mud, the rain and the rainbow after.  Let’s do this.  My mother will never go through that experience again as long as I draw breath…what is this? Is this courage popping out a little bit?  Come on out courageous gal, we have work to do.

I’ll see you at the webcast.

XOXO,

Vic

 

Week 15 Fresh Water

Marky J

Shout out to Mark and this fabulous into video to the keys this week.  I loved the analogy of the freshwater and throwing out your bucket.  It’s so true sometimes to where I have asked myself, “what do you do when you are burned out or dried out???”  This MKE experience is the answer to a point.  Give more, create value and love on people.  Suddenly those dry places are rivers, lakes and in some cases oceans. My word this week is (drumroll please…) DISCIPLINE.

Out of the entire list, I feel this is the big one that I need to grow in.  I am excited about these fruits growing with in my life.  I love the analogy TD Jakes said, ” Jesus said to be fruitful, but you can’t be fruitful unless you are seedful.  You never know what you have within you until you are in the presence of someone who can develop those seeds. So often times I am not sowing seeds, I am sowing fertilizer. “  To a large degree I feel I am living that analogy with this experience.  I love discovering new skills sets within me that I never knew I had.  It’s like a different version of Christmas but it is delightful.

Light

Being a light has in the past been an area of tug of war with me.  As a teen and young adult, I would always “dim” my light to keep from outshining the people I sang with, create with or work with to avoid jealousy.  What I didn’t realize at that time is that jealousy was always there regardless of what I did.  So I find that I am still struggling with that concept of “shinning”.  What is weird is I don’t fear jealousy or envy anymore I think its more about being lazy.  It takes alot of energy to deal with people period, but when you add jealousy to the mix good Lord, pass the Red Bull. Here is what I have decided though.  It is more selfish to dim than to shine.  At a previous job I worked at stated, ” you are being interviewed on a daily basis”. Long story short: someone is always watching you progress or digress.  So you never know who needs your light. We are always connecting things.  We are connecting creatures ya know? So what will the world connect me with?  Light.

Master Keys

Hannel says, ”The laws under which we live are designed solely for our advantage. These laws are immutable and we cannot escape from their operation. “  I absolutely love that because it is sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo true. The law of gravity, the law of thrust and so on and so forth are designed to your advantage.  The name of the game is becoming aware of these laws(love, money, gravity, physics etc) and stop operating them ignorantly or dangerously.

Drinking the water

I am excited to continue letting my bucket down and gathering the fresh water.  Let the hydration fest begin;)

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Vacation?  What Vacation

So Merry belated Christmas to you fam!  As I write to you about my previous week I am feeling almost a wave if you will of extreme gratefulness.  This past Monday, I was crying, rejoicing singing to the Lord my God, praising and crying some more.  All because of one thing.  My mother finally moved out of her old house.  This was one of my long DMP goals and it has finally come into manifestation.  I learned so many lessons from this experience I thought I share a few.

OG

Og says I will persist until I succeed.  That statement was spot on for me Christmas week because I had to help my mom clean out her old house of 27 years and help her move into her new home.  That old house must have teleported from the old testament, specifically, the part where the 12 plagues happened in Moses’ day because over the years she experienced everything from frog infestation(the plumbing wasn’t installed right), bugs, electricity shorting out and so much more I dare not share.  We were toating bags of trash, old receipts, awards etc.  I thought it was such a beautiful analogy that we are mentally “throwing away decades of trash” with this experience with each week.

I was physically exhausted but I kept hearing the Fabulous Daveen’s voice in my head, ” how would you feel if you won 10 million dollars? You’d be full of energy”  I kept saying Og’s quote in my head I will persist until I succeed.  Succeed we did.  We finished cleaning out the old house on Saturday that week.  I can’t imagine what would have happened had I not come help my mom.  It was just me and her but I am grateful I did.

Cool Runnings

That movie makes me laugh every time, but I think about the city of the coach, the passion of the team captain and the trust of the team.  Had those elements not played a part in that movie, they would not have made it to the Olympics.  It’s one of my favorite movies that demonstrate mental toughness and tenacity.

Mom’s New Home

There are some issues with the new house and that’s life folks.  I am stoked she is not in that old house anymore I can not tell you.  This experience taught me this:  ownership is everything. If you don’t have ownership, you are subject to the will of others.  So being that one of my PPN’s is Helping Others, I will do what I must do to gain ownership in every area of my life.  Never ever will my mom be told she has to leave her home again.  This chick always keeps her promises.

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Merry Christmas fam!  I thought this appropriate as we are practicing the art of persistance. Also Star wars is out so why not:)?

PPNs

I was talking to one of my mastermind buddies(shout out to Camille) and I told her that I thought my PPNs were Autonomy and Liberty, but the truth of the matter is it’s not Autonomy and Liberty.  It is helping others and liberty.

Yes being where you want to be when you want to be is important to me, but when do I feel most alive? When I help others.  When I help others reach their potential.  If we are being totally honest, it is the reason why I became a fitness and wellness professional.  I lost over 80lbs when I started my journey of true health 14 years ago.

I knew what it felt like to FEEL like you were in your imprisoned in your body.  All the pain, shame, and limited ability.  I knew how it felt.  There was a time standing on my feet caused such tremendous pain on my heels it was horrific. However, once I achieved the level of health I wanted and “set myself free” from my body, I wanted to teach others how to do it.  So there you go, one of my PPNs really is helping others.

There is nothing like hearing the testimonials of how your students have lost weight or because they learned a new way to take care of themselves they do not need their meds.  Or when your client tells you that their doctor asked them what are they doing?  It just brings tears to my eyes.  It is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world. One of the most precious.

Flash Cards

On my service card, I put— do yoga and weight lift 3 to 4 times a week.  I have started my weightlifting routine again without hesistation.

Side note**** On the leg sled machine I did 270lb/122.49 kg, The lat pulldown machine I did 110lb/49.89 kg and squats I did 180lb/81.6 kg  I am improving my pullups as well.  I asked the attendant, “what did you all do to this machine?!”  I said, “It’s too easy.  What did you all do?”  He responded with a smile, “Nothing ma’am( I live in southern USA) sounds to me you have gotten stronger”. ******

I have a long way to go to achieve the strength I want, but  it’s a start right?  I haven’t completed numbers like that since my 20′s.  I have been teaching group fitness for seven years now and I asked myself what’s the next level?  So I decided next year I am doing my first half marathon.  I need ya’lls help.  I don’t know who to dress as.  I am torn between  Tiana, Pocohantas or Mulan what do you all think?

The Flash….

As I flash my “did things right cards” I feel a sense of joy bubble inside me.  I did what MJ said and picked up my cards first before I picked up my phone.  After half a day of that, I didn’t want to look at my phone anymore.  I’m glad it’s Christmas time because discovering something new about yourself or the people you love is like a opening a Christmas present.

Christmas time

I can not wait to be the person I will to be.  This time next year will look very different.  I was looking at pricing to take my family to Disney world and Carlisle,England, UK.  My great grandmother is from there so I want to take my mom to see the city.  As I looked at the pictures I imaged what it would be like.  The look on my mom’s face.  It’s so green there.  Then I looked at Disney world.  Mom has always wanted to spend Christmas there.  So I looked at pricing and recalled some of the memories I had when I visited many years ago.

The Journey

As I read scroll 3 I realize that this is my life.  I am a persistent woman and it’s a beautiful reminder of what never giving up on that what you know is yours can do.  I am excited to read scroll 4.  I really enjoyed scroll 2 and I might read it again over the break.  I have so many wonderful and ambitious things waiting for me in 2018 and for the first time in my life I can say, I can’t wait to meet them.

If you made it this far, thank you for reading and Merry Christmas.

XOXO

Victoria

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My daily source of motivation to be the best I can be.  Meet my mommy!  Isn’t she a fox?:)

I’m looking at the woman in the mirror

Shout out to all the MJ fans.

Wait-a-minute!?! Who is this girl making appointments, calling people and setting times to grow in her business? Ta’da! This girl!!! This caramel chick right here!

I could not believe myself today(12/11/17)!!!!  I prayed about it, and did it without hesitation.  I can’t believe it…or can I?  It’s working folks, it’s working!!!!!

The fear is beginning to melt like BUTTah(in my best Mark J voice). The DMP is beginning to manifest itself in many ways I am honey I am here for it!  Stay tuned for more folks…

P.S. As I am writing this, I have the hiccups and that was not a part of the DMP or my life at all.  Oh well…se la ve.

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Week 11: My Squad and Say it!

Say it girl!

I am powerful. No, my name is not Diana, it’s not Kara and it’s definitely not  Ororo.  My name is Victoria and Victoria is powerful.  She’s her own Ethiopian version of Storm. Shout out to all my comic book fans out there.

See it girl.

This week I am visioning more and more and more. I am beginning to see the birth of my dmp come to life.  I am visioning myself speaking to thousands of people. I see myself buying the ranch land and house for my mom.  I see myself competing in ironmans.  I  am beginning to dream again.  The feeling is amazing.

Realize it girl.

I have come to a revelation that I am sure you all have come to already. Forgive me for being late.  I am truly rich.  Does my bank account show that statement?  Not in the natural, YET. However, when I look around at those who genuinely want me to win, who are not related to me by blood but by the bloodlines of friendship.  I am overwhelmedly blessed. I have people in my corner that genuinely want me to win.

I remember praying for mentors to help me become the entrepreneur I wanted to be and now I have found them both on and offline.  I am so rich.  It’s only a matter of time before I become wealthy. I am starting to believe I can do what I set out to do.  Walking in your destiny is a powerful thing but the belief that you can figure it out and handle it is real power.

Do you know you are rich fam?  Who are you grateful to have to support you?

XOXO,

Vykkie

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Week 10: Scroll Scroll Your Boat Gently Down….

#Greatful

So let me tell ya’ll.  I have an amazing tribe, an amazing tribe leader(shout to Jen girl you are fabulous) and an amazing leadership team.  One thing you will not find about me is fake compliments.  I have no shame to tell you to your face I like your ____________(hair girl! Work it! or I love that tie on you Frank) So when I say this journey is freaking amazing…..believe it, honey.  That statement comes with no smoke or mirrors.

Charted Waters

The masterminding part of this journey is stretching me and I’ll tell you how.  I used to joke that I am related to a clam because I rarely open up to anyone. The ironic part of what I do for a living is getting people to open up to me so they can meet their fitness and financial goals.  As we go through the exercises, the webcasts and the sits I find myself opening up more and more.  This ….is….weird.  I don’t know what this feeling is but I am going to shoot for change? Vulnerability?  I don’t know fam.  We all know the saying to get what you never got you have to do somethings you have never done.  I think we are in those charted waters as we speak.

Scroll 3

I think I am in love with this scroll, no joking.  First of all the amount of classy shade is more than a tweet from former president Obama.  I am just loving it. The imagery of it all is so powerful.  Equating failure to a slaughterhouse and non-self directed thinkers to sheep…my reaction was comparable to finding your favorite designer dress slashed at 75% off(all my ladies can relate…some guys too)!  I just said to myself I …don’t…want….to …..be…a….sheep. Period.  That is not what I came here to do.  I really really really love this scroll!  So far it is my favorite scroll and not because of the length but the imagery is so powerful like Superman punching you in the face

How are you liking Scroll 3 fam and what quote did you roll over from Scroll 2?

XOXO,

Vykkie

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This is Sparta! Just kidding this is me trying to figure out what I want.  This journey has trained me to find the energy I need despite how I feel.  I realize that the difference between the “big dogs” of the world and me is grit.  They go through the same drama, challenges, betrayals, joys, and triumphs but through it all, they still move forward.

This Thanksgiving I spent my time helping my mom move out of her house of 30 years.  30 years of memories, 30 years of papers, 30 years of awards…30 years. Now granted I was exhausted and I didn’t feel well, but I kept pressing through.  I kept hearing the Fabulous Daveen’s voice in my head, what would you do if you won 10 million dollars and you were tired.  You would have a sudden burst of energy right?”

I kept telling myself you have all the energy you need to get this done.  There are things, drawings, awards that I completely forgot about.  I got to see the girl I was and in comparison to the woman, I am now.  I was so scared then.  So scared in my teens and 20′s.  The kicker is, I can’t remember why.  As I was cleaning the house out with every trash load, every bag, every old item, that I threw away, I felt like I was throwing away the mental cement physically.  It’s a crazy feeling to express, but this is the best way I can express it.

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