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MKE Week 7b – Incrementally

Post from November 2017

State of play time for me today! Seven weeks after the start of this amazing training, where am I in my MKE work?

Any feedback is welcome! it would be a way for me to see how I could do differently.

The sit? I do it every day…and I just savor it as MY moment of the day!

The readings as well! I do them nearly as required. However, I don´t manage to get as deeply into the lessons as I would wish to (time issue). The good thing is: I now feel I need my fix of those readings or master key audios every day. Peptides in action?

I’m late!… on several practical pieces of work: the poster, getting a compass, recording my DMP… often take me nearly a week to put into practice! But I do them.

Precisely on my DMP, after a moment of  stagnation and doubt, I have the feeling that I’m making progress again. Thanks Phil! My objectives are getting updated and refined.

I am only progressively getting involved in the blogs and alliances. I still haven’t been able to really benefit from the Digital Solutions webinars. Lack of time again. I will use any time I find by mid 2018 to go through the replays and practice what is explained.

Crucially, what about the mental diet? Basically: 1st day astonishingly perfect, then 3 days opposite to perfect, and the 4th day a mix.  I’m kind of hopeful again…

At the end of the day I’m actually working hard, especially on top of my busy life, which means I miss a few hours sleep every week. Even then, I don’t manage to do it all, for me to fully benefit from the amazing resources that the MKE puts at our disposal.  But truly, I love the MKE work. It is a great support to each of my days. More importantly, my mind is pursuing its positive shift. Where all this will end is unknown…

 

MKE Week 23 – Hedgehogs in Nature

I love this quote on which Mark J insists:

The meaning of life is to find your gift, your bliss. The purpose of life is to give it away.

You do this by:

 being true to your own nature.

Doing so is easier for me since my reading of Og Mandino’s scroll IV (« I am nature’s greatest miracle »), especially the following quotes: « I place my uniqueness on display in the market place. I proclaim it, yeah, I sell it. I begin now to accent my differences; hide my similarities. »

This is the process by which I can be a self directed thinker.

In fact, this idea is of course present since the beginning of the MKE course, when each one of us was to draft her or his definite major purpose, ignoring each and every limitation that we may perceive from our environment.

It is also present in this great method for being successful at work: acting as the hedgehog rather than the fox. Concentrating on what you are good at and what is a good leverage to your business results, rather than trying to cover everything and thereby being ineffective. I find this particularly difficult, perhaps because I don’t easily accept that I have limits or time constraints, and I want to believe that I could learn everything at the same time. But as Mark J  says: this is ego. Wow! Ego?! Alright then, I definitely have to concentrate on my true nature, my gift, and act there.

Being true to my own nature enables me to truly connect with others, absolutely! As it happens, I am really a social animal, and as this process favours authentic connections with others is, it is for me, a blessed process.

Week 22a – progression

One of the – many – things I love about the MKE is that we are provided with excellent methods, tips and tricks to be organised and efficient in our work and in our life at large.  More than this, these methods seem to answer quite a few of the issues I’ve been struggling with for so long. Not that they suddenly solve all the issues, but at least they give me an angle to approach them.

The teaching of these various methods has a logic, it is progressive. It is thus that we learn to do the following:

  1. Before anything, determine your definite major purpose, through the identification of your burning desire  linked to you personal pivotal needs.
  2. Then, draw a plan of action to meet your definite major purpose.
  3. Schedule your tasks, do your OATS.
  4. Be daring, get out of your comfort zone. Actually, expand it.
  5. But do not schedule tasks in an unrealistic way, the ego tries to make you do that. You need to progress while always keeping your promises.
  6. In your day, do not forget the hierarchy of priorities: world within, family and friends, keeping promises, business.

I use these methods every day and I am grateful for this…

MKE Week 22 – The Summer Day

Mark asked us: « what is your favourite season? » I answered: the summer. I will drink each minute of every summer to the full…

Like Og Mandino, « I will live this day as if it is my last… Each minute of this day will I grasp with both hands and fondle with love for its value is beyond price… Is [this day] another opportunity for me to become the [wo]man I know I can be? Is there a purpose in nature? »

Everything is a miracle. « Is it not so that birds, the wind, the sea and all nature speaks with the music of their creator? » .

Mandino’s readings have become like a daily prayer to me, a daily mantra.

For all these reasons, Mary Oliver‘s poem « The Summer Day » resonates in me. The MKE helps me replying to the questions asked in the poem, with confidence and happiness. Enjoy the reading.

 

THE SUMMER DAY

Who made the world?

Who made the swan, and the black bear?

Who made the grasshopper?

This grasshopper, I mean -

the one who has flung herself out of the grass,

the one who is eating sugar out of my hand,

who is moving her jaws back and forth instead of up and down -

who is gazing around with her enormous and complicated eyes.

Now she lifts her pale forearms and thoroughly washes her face.

Now she snaps her wings open, and floats away.

I don’t know exactly what a prayer is.

I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down

into the grass, how to kneel down in the grass,

how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields,

which is what I have been doing all day.

Tell me, what else should I have done?

Doesn’t everything die at last, and too soon?

Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?

Mary Oliver

 

 

MKE Week 21 – Comfort zone

I love the idea of using the 5 tools to expand my comfort zone : fear, unworthiness, guilt, hurt feelings and anger.

Once again, the mere idea that I will turn negative emotions into something positive feels good in itself! I say « again » because it is similar to Og Mandino´s teaching that problems are opportunities in disguise, also present in Haenel’s teachings.

How do you turn those 5 negative emotions into something that expands your comfort zone? I don’t know, really. But the way I practice it actually works! I do the following:

- first, when I manage to be enough of an observer, I can see that I am experiencing one of these 5 emotions; let us say fear for example, fear of attending a challenging meeting unprepared.

- second, I think to myself: « hey, this is fear, one of the five tools! Therefore an opportunity to expand my comfort zone, good!! »

- third, I use the law of substitution, to attach another feeling to the idea of attending that meeting. And I kind of decide that I feel excited to attend that meeting because I will expand my comfort zone, and to also think that this meeting will be interesting, so that I add some extra excitement.

And this actually works! I must admit that I haven’t had really challenging situations lately. It was therefore easier to apply this recipe. But still it worked! I added a bit of the posture exercise « i fake it until I become it », which was quite helpful also.

My conclusion: once again, thank you to Mark and the divine team! What an amazing cocktail of life changing tools! Expanding your comfort zone means that you will feel comfortable in an increasing number of situations. How awesome is that…?!

 

MKE Week 19 – Mindfulness

Here and now, is a recurrent theme in Og Mandino’s scrolls. And I think this is key to freedom and happiness, awareness and mindfulness.

Freedom, from yesterday and from tomorrow. From what others may or may not think, from what I may or may not do. “I concentrate my energy on the challenge of the moment and my actions help me forget all else”.

Happiness, as I then have the possibility to enjoy the moment without thinking that I would rather be sometime somewhere else.

Relations are easier, as my true presence enables me to better see how the others are feeling. I am then able to truly respond rather than to react. Respond to their needs or to what the situation requires.

Success is around the corner, this one or the other, as my interest in the action of the moment enables my concentration to increase (Haenel), thus providing me with knowledge. Better and deeper knowledge, of my work, of any matter, of others and of myself. “I increase my knowledge of mankind, myself and the goods I sell, thus my sales multiply.”

Most important is the awareness of myself, that I increase through the sit, through relaxation, through listening to my world within. That is through the meditation.

Yes, here and now, truly applied, may lead to being conscious of what is happening, when it is happening. This is the definition of mindfulness.

Maïlys

MKE Week 18 – Hold on to happiness

Since a few days, I find it difficult to do all my MKE exercises every day.

What mainly keeps me from doing it all, is that I have launched so many projects at the same time, trying to strain my potential until it cries for mercy, that it is actually my – limited – 24 hours a day that cry for mercy.

The good thing is that I still feel amazingly happy and powerful. The less good thing is that I am stressing out a bit (only a bit though) due to the promises I made to others and to myself.  Concretely, I am referring to these promises to do my job up to my standards, to do my MKE exercises, to do sport, to dramatically upgrade my digital skills, to create a mindfulness franchise in Brussels, to learn Spanish, to renovate my house and above all to take very good care of my family and my friends. All this with deadlines. Hum….

However, I can see that all my projects are actually making relatively good progress. And my family seems relaxed and happy, which is a real joy to me. I am also having a much much (much!) more relaxed life than before, if I think of it for a minute.

Yesterday, a colleague and friend from work asked me something like: « what is going on with you Mailys, you are so full of energy, each time that I see you, and even in your mails and messages… ?? » Gosh, i just loved hearing that, especially from my friend, and I keep this warmly in my heart… to keep me going and to hold on…

 

 

MKE Week 17 HJ – The frenzy begins… watch out!

Ooooooh! It feels like I’m going through a new acceleration phase! It seems like the teachings of these last three weeks are just launching me into life like a rocket!

Well, of course!!! What did you expect?! Precisely these teachings, the use of these words and concepts directly appeal to what I’m personally craving for!! Mandino calling to our potential, Haenel making our limits vanish thanks to this cocktail of desire and concentration, the hero’s journey, the call for each one of us to express her/his uniqueness and through this, to fulfill her/his purpose in life, helping others, being the influencer s/he naturally is! This appeals to me!

It feels like I am in kind of a frenzy state. I am busy 24/7 progressing on my goals. Yes, 24/7 because one of my goals is to sleep 7 hours per night.. Progressing on nearly all my goals at once! And I have many. Many! Too many? Probably. Actually, certainly! But, does my potential cry for mercy? NO, not yet. Or perhaps I don’t hear it… actually, I feel at times mentally exhausted. But I keep going. I have registered to trainings at work on all aspects of digital skills, on top of the training to start learning Spanish, with a view to the job that I will start in July and for which I also need to learn the subject matter. All this on top of my current job, my family, the MKE and – mainly – the big project that I’m developing outside work!

What about you? did you also start so many projects at once? How do you feel? Or are you more reasonable, realistic, which could lead to perseverence and more efficiency in the long term? What is your experience now?

Watch out, Maïlys! You know all too well the risks that come with this euphoric and frenzy state! Because in me, desire to accomplish is so huge sometimes, that only my body can stop me, or worse, my mental stops me as it just stops functioning for a while, until I get back on my feet again. But perhaps my mindfulness practice will help me seeing the red lights before it is too late.

Oops, i think I suddenly see a small red light flashing… ok, i will slow down….. a tiny little bit for now… ; – p

MKE Week 17 – I CAN SEE

« Where is my magnifying glass??

- There, in your concentration.

- What? Sorry, but where is this?

- There, in your relaxation.

- Pfew, thank you! I could not see where I was going. Cause actually, I couldn’t see where I was. Alright, I’m gonna sit then, see myself from within, and therefore « be », which will allow me to know where I’m going and to see how I’m getting there.

- Excellent! You‘re making good progress! But tell me: how will you see how to get there?

- Well, by being the Observer, I suppose!

- Indeed. And you may only be the Observer if you relax. »

 

You’ve just read a summary of what went on in my brain when reading Haenel lesson 17. This is such an empowering feeling! With the MKE, it is as if I started to see more clearly than I could see before… putting all the bits and pieces together, seeing the greater picture but at the same time identifying more precisely and more easily what was in for me in this great (great!) picture.

When I am relaxed, I just am. And as I have defined my purpose (more or less, I’m getting there, as my DMP progresses), I can see!

I can see what was already visible,  although I was not always able to identify it before. That is, I can see the resources available to realise my purpose. If in a meadow full of varied flowers, only a variety of these flowers is helpful to me, it is as if these flowers were now appearing before my eyes! I don’t have to look for them anymore. On top of that, new such flowers are brought to me from another meadow,  because I have asserted my needs and people bring me these resources (possibly I get what I gave them at some point, or there are just being kind).

I can see what is NOT visible. That is, with my brain, I can for example understand why challenges and problems occur, so that I tackle them at their root, and these obstacles do not to occur again (see my previous post).

With these resources and these victories, I can see my power. And this boosts my self-confidence!

As a virtuous circle, self-confidence helps me relax… so that I can better concentrate…and better see.

Mailys