Week 16 – Og’s Recipe

A recipe to succeed in my work.

In the last two years, I experienced a few difficulties at work. I observed that the persons who were getting the highest positions or who were considered the brightest ones, often happened to be the most arrogant ones. I then got to think that the system I was in was rewarding only those types of people, which would probably lead me to failure, as I would neither be willing nor able to follow this path.

But with the MKE, I started thinking that I was entitled to behave in accordance with my personality, shamelessly and assertively. I starting believing that I did not have to become arrogant to have my work appreciated. And the effects were positive.

Now, with Scroll IV in “The Greatest Salesman in the World”, I believe even more that, not only I am entitled to by myself at work, but also, that this precisely can lead me to success.

Og Mandino provides us with the recipe for this:

  • Ingredient 1: my uniqueness has value. I am aware of it and I will use it and show it

I will place my uniqueness on display in the market place. I will proclaim it, yea, I will sell it.

  • Ingredient 2: I increase my knowledge of my business (expertise, linked to competence), and I increase my knowledge of mankind (useful to understand others and interact with them) and of myself (useful to progress)

I will increase my knowledge of mankind, myself and the goods I sell

  • Ingredients 3 and 4: I pay attention to the words I use and I improve them, and I improve my manners and graces

I will practice, and improve, and polish the words I utter to sell my goods

also will I seek constantly to improve my manners and graces.

These last two ingredients are tools to get my peculiarities accepted, and even admired or at least valued. Words and graces present my peculiarities and my uniqueness with their good angle. Also, paying attention to the words I say regarding myself (inner talk) are crucial for my self-confidence and in turn for the way people see me.

What a relief, to find out that I am allowed to be myself and still succeed! And so far, it seems to work…

 

MKE week 15 – Hey, potential, cry for mercy!

This MKE week is amazingly rich, this impresses me much!

I particularly love the  idea that our potential is unlimited, yet not fully used. This energises me and gives me confidence that I can start many of the activities I desire at once, rather than waiting to create the time for each one of them. Realistic? … Euh.. i don’t know. I’ll tell you once I have experimented this…

Here are but a few of this week’s ideas on the unlimited potential:

First, Og Mandino, with this funny metaphor of our potential crying for mercy! “I have unlimited potential. Only a small portion of my brain do I employ; only a paltry proportion of my muscles do I flex. A hundredfold or more can I increase my accomplishments of yesterday.

I will strain my potential until it cries for mercy.“

Then, Haanel, whiches pushes us to make use of the latent knowledge that we hold: “knowledge does not apply itself. … our actions are not governed by knowledge, but by custom, precedent and habit. … knowledge unused passes from the mind, … the value of the information is in the application of the principle.”

Another of Haanel’s teachings is huge as it gives us tools to develop our potential: the idea that we should use obstacles or problems as challenges from which to draw a lesson (wisdom) which, if applied, will make us grow, thus preventing the same kind of problem to arise again:

All conditions and experiences that come to us do so for our benefit. Difficulties and obstacles will continue to come until we absorb their wisdom and gather from them the essentials of further growth.

Og Mandino says it as well and encourages us to see through problems in this way: “I have been given eyes to see and a mind to think and now I know a great secret of life for I perceive, at last, that all my problems, discouragements and heartaches are, in truth, great opportunities in disguise”. This idea was actually already clear in scroll 2.

So much more is in this week 15, and I might as well get back to it in one of my next posts. But on the unlimited potential, I would like to thank again the MKE team for having developed this great idea of the makeover with 13 weeks to focus on successive virtues. A great process I am eager to go through…

Week 14 MKE – Power cut

Mastering my life, deciding on its direction, goes through concentrating all my power on what I want, and using power cuts whenever I am able to see that my thoughts drift where I do not want them to go.

I am so grateful to know about the law of growth!  I consciously use it as much as I can. I regularly manage to let some bad thoughts atrophy, especially using the metaphor of the bear holding the kettle… a very good trick to apply the mental diet! I love the idea of the process of denial in Haanel‘s lesson 14: the idea that I am depriving bad circumstances from any power.

if you deny unsatisfactory conditions, you are withdrawing the creative power of your thought from these conditions. You are cutting them away at the root. You are sapping their vitality.

I thus sometimes manage to do the opposite of my previous habit, i.e. of what Haanel describes most people do:

Most persons concentrate intently upon unsatisfactory conditions, thereby giving the condition that measure of energy and vitality which is necessary in order to supply a vigorous growth.

But then I have this question about the following quote from George Mathew Adams:

Learn to keep the door shut, keep out of your mind and out of your world, every element that seeks admittance with no definite helpful end in view.

To what extent should I be disciplined in the activities of my life? Example: should I avoid watching films that I love, but that might instill negative feelings in my mind, such as frustration or anger? Unless I misunderstood, Mark J said that he does not do anything else than what he put in his OATS. What a discipline of life! Or there is something I misunderstand here. Any reply, comment or explanation is welcome…

Week 13 – the journey

 

Ooooooh! I have the feeling that this poem from Mary Oliver fits so well with the journey that we have embarked on with the MKE, the new life that we have started with our new self.

« THE JOURNEY

One day you finally knew what you had to do, and began, though the voices around you kept shouting their bad advice – though the whole house began to tremble and you felt the old tug at your ankles. “Mend my life!” each voice cried. But you didn’t stop. You knew what you had to do, though the wind pried with its stiff fingers at the very foundations, though their melancholy was terrible.
It was already late enough, and a wild night, and the road full of fallen branches and stones. But little by little, as you left their voices behind, the stars began to burn through the sheets of clouds, and there was a new voice which you slowly recognized as your own, that kept you company as you strode deeper and deeper into the world, determined to do the only thing you could do – determined to save the only life you could save. »

Mary Oliver

To be honest, I am still unsure about my ultimate dream in life – the one I stated in my DMP, my earnest desire, my truest interest. Yet, I have the feeling that I know what I have to do. I have to continue the process, to continue this journey. The process, as guided by the MKE, is excellent in itself.  Together with meditation, it enables wisdom to grow in me. I progressively find out what I do not want (cement is progressively falling off). And I keep exploring solutions, opening up possibilities, to check if my stated dream is really my earnest desire or truest interest, or otherwise to find out what this would be.

Increase in me that wisdom Which discovers my truest interest, Strengthen my resolution To perform that which wisdom dictates.
Franklin

Week 12 MKE – a new day

Today I begin a new life.

I notice that one of the recurrent ideas that attract me the most in The Greatest Salesman (Og Mandino), is the way he approaches each and every day, i.e. separately from the other days. I love this attitude. It liberates me from the possible difficulties of the day before, or from the expectations that I had unconsciously built for myself. It also makes me enthusiastic about the day to come. Because of course, Og Mandino encourages us to anticipate the new day as the best one of our life.

I will forget the happenings of the day that is gone, whether they were good or bad, and greet the new sun with confidence that it will be the best day of my life.

Singling out each day is also about putting into perspective the efforts that you make, cutting your monthly efforts into steps, thus easier to make.

In truth, one step at a time is not too difficult.

This is also linked to breaking bad habits, or stopping negative thoughts, and about living here and now, making the best of the present moment. It enables to consciously  bring about a positive thought about the day to come, nourished with emotion, therefore a belief that will become reality.

With the effect of the MKE or Og Mandino’s scrolls, such positive thoughts at sunrise become easier every day. They do! I used to fear many of my days.

As the words of these scrolls are consumed by my mysterious mind, I begin to awake, each morning, with a vitality I have never known before. My vigor increases, my enthusiasm rises, my desire to meet the world overcomes every fear I once knew at sunrise, and I am happier than I ever believed it possible to be.

Now, as much as I can,

I greet this day with love in my heart and I am born again.

 

 

Week 11 MKE – Slowdown… or fight?

How typical!

of me, at least… After euphoria (last lasted nearly 10 weeks), this is turbulences time, or rather a slowdown.

Why?

I don’t know. It could be for many reasons: a weekend in Paris where I changed my perspective on a few things and discussed with my sister, the clearer realisation that so much in the MKE is linked to faith in a creator, probably also some lassitude effect with all the work put in it…

But I think the main reason is the usual one for me: when I start with a new passion (and the MKE is one!), I am totally euphoric! I literally dive in it,  I become obsessed, I work in an unreasonable manner and I learn at light speed, with immediate rewarding in terms of pleasure. Of course, this is not sustainable. Then comes the second phase: the slowdown which, when compared to the first phase, might give the impression of a fall (even if it is still a curb in the increase)! Again, how typical of me!

This all is disturbing, and I have the impression that I work a bit less, which in turn doesn’t help.

However!

(… you knew this “however” would come??), when I think about it for a minute, I do not view these reasons as negative ones. Rather the opposite. Clearly, I am challenged: is my DMP really my DMP? is my faith vacillating, in the way that I had defined it since I was a teenager? or more down-to-earth, should I move houses now? But these reasons might be healthy ones. I am actually looking deeper into what my real DMP is. And perhaps I expand the range of possibilities with new ideas. In fact, I have the impression that I am fighting with my limits! At least I hope so…

…the third phase…?

In any case, I know that the third phase will be a good one, because I love this MKE, and because I love and trust the process. I am also very curious about what my life is becoming, of what my future will be… especially now that it is no longer set in stone, and that the extent of possibilities is unlimited!

Woh! Gosh, again, this rollercoaster takes me by surprise!…

Alright, to be continued then (obviously)…

MKE Week 10 – Freedom in sight

A very dear friend once lent me a book… She must be regretting this now! Since then, I have but only been talking about it! Nonetheless… I persist: now I’m going to write about it!

Many of you know the book: “The Four Agreements (Toltec Wisdom Book)”, by Don Miguel.

Why do I treasure it? Because to me, if you live by these four simple rules, you hold a key to freedom! Simple principles? YES. Easy to live by them? Euh… NO. Actually, it is a bit like the mental diet. The mere fact that you give it a try every day makes you feel better, and makes you progress, each day a step further.

Surely, there are links between the Toltec agreements/ principles and everything we learn in our precious MKE. So in this post, I will only mention these four principles, together with some of the links with our MKE’s learnings (“linking”, remember?).

1st principle: “I am impeccable with my Word”.

What does it mean to me (the “no expert me”)? I would say:

« I do not talk about anyone in a negative manner, and above all I never (NEVER) talk in a negative manner about myself »! Now, we know why: because subby would take your word as the truth and would work to make it a reality! Rather, I talk positively, therefore think positively… law of substitution, mental diet… loving others and loving myself (Og Mandino). As a consequence, I am free: from negative thoughts.

2nd principle: “I don’t take anything personally”.

3rd principle: “I don’t make assumptions”.

What an amazing freedom, these two principles do provide! Indeed: when I start wondering what the others will think of me, I think of these two principles and… I voluntarily STOP this useless and tiring flow of thoughts, this waste of positive energy. I truly become free to act the way I decide!

Plus, others necessarily love me because I love them and I love myself! (see 1st principle above, see Emerson‘s law, see Og Mandino). This means that I « get down to bedrock facts regardless of consequences. [I am ] free to follow the trail of truth wherever it may lead. [...] and the result is that the world gives [me] all that it has to give, in friendship, honour, love and approval. » (Charles Haanel). I am free from the circumstances, because I choose the cause. It is easier for me to choose the cause, as I choose my habits (Og  Mandino).

4th principle: “I always do my best”.

Not less, but also not more! I set myself free from the expectations I set for myself! On top of that, thanks to the MKE, I eliminate procrastination. I therefore achieve efficiency, wellbeing, peace of mind, and in turn success! as, « what is success other than a state of mind? » (Og Mandino).

In fact, I use my subby the way I decide (MKE). Mindfulness and free will, isn’it?

And I am happy.

Maïlys

By the way, my first PPN is autonomy/freedom. ;-)

 

 

 

MKE Week 9 – I love my enemies

 

As in my previous post, I will today start with one of the precious advice handed down to us by Og Mandino:

“I will laud mine enemies and they will become friends;”

When I was a teenager, I heard about loving enemies. And I rejected this strongly, as I believed that this was a sign of weakness and that if you were thinking like this, you would be and remain a victim of these enemies.

I can see now how far I might have been from the truth. I did the experience those last weeks at  work. [Here, I want to put a caveat, as I have not tried this with people who made me really suffer in life. This might be for another post on the law of forgiveness]. But this week at work, I loved and lauded mine “enemies”, or rather than enemies, colleagues who triggered bad emotions in me… What a relief! Instead of feeling embittered when in contact with these persons, I was feeling warmer, and this even triggered another behaviour from them. Remember?

“In silence and to myself I will address him [/her] and say I Love you [...] and his[/her] heart will be opened.”

(Og Mandino)

So much easier for me to handle!

The other day, I was following a training on interpersonal relations (yes, I’m passionate about these subjects!). There, I understood that the very persons who trigger repulsion in you, are the persons who correspond to your personal challenges, in terms of character or attitude. And these persons are precisely the ones from whom you may learn the most!

First, you may acquire a better understanding of yourself, by asking yourself why they trigger you. Talking about “personality types”, Carl Jung tells us:

“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves.”

And second, you might perhaps get lessons learned from them. For example, if you tend to have a low self-esteem, and if you are triggered by an arrogant person, well perhaps you can learn from his/her assertiveness.

This leads us back to Og Mandino:

“I will love the ambitious for they can inspire me; I will love the failures for they can teach me.”

Conclusion: if you love and laud your enemies, then you open and relax, and you become able to perceive the lessons learned that you need. These lessons are resources that come to you and that will help you progress towards the person you will to be. On top of that, you get the benefit of instantly feeling warmer in this relation. In fact, far from being a weak victim as I initially thought, you actually become a powerful victor.

“I will greet this day with love, and I will succeed.”

(Og Mandino)

Maïlys

MKE Week 8 – The Guest house

 

Og Mandino tells us:

“I will welcome happiness for it enlarges my heart; yet I will endure sadness for it opens my soul.”

How do you actually do that? I would like to share with you this poem by Rumi, which in a way is a comfort to me when I am challenged by sadness or another feeling or emotion uneasy to handle.

THE GUEST HOUSE

This being human is a guesthouse.

Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,

some momentary awareness comes

as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!

Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,

who violently sweep your house

empty of its furniture,

still, treat each guest honourably.

He may be clearing you out

for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,

meet them at the door laughing,

and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,

because each has been sent

as a guide from beyond.

Rumi

Of course, if you welcome one of these uneasy guests (difficult feelings) together with negative thoughts and if you hold these thoughts, it might well be that you have to restart your mental diet! ;-)   But immediately pushing the feeling away might not be very helpful, as he will be tempted to stay instead. Worse, if you do not greet him at the door, you might even not be able to see him entering the guest house, and how do you take him out then?  However, if one of these challenging feelings unexpectedly enters your guest house, and if you are able to see him coming and to welcome him, then you will be in a position to let him go, perhaps even more quickly that you would have thought!

Does that mean that you should keep the door shut to negative thoughts but open to all feelings? My answer would be the following: 1. keep the door shut to negative thoughts, 2. attach positive feelings to any thoughts, 3. if a negative feeling still comes at the door, greet it, welcome it and let it go.

Maïlys

MKE Week 7 – incrementally

State of play time for me today! Seven weeks after the start of this amazing training, where am I in my MKE work?

Any feedback is welcome! it would be a way for me to see how I could do differently.

The sit? I do it every day…and I just savor it as MY moment of the day!

The readings as well! I do them nearly as required. However, I don´t manage to get as deeply into the lessons as I would wish to (time issue). The good thing is: I now feel I need my fix of those readings or master key audios every day. Peptides in action?

I’m late!… on several practical pieces of work: the poster, getting a compass, recording my DMP… often take me nearly a week to put into practice! But I do them.

Precisely on my DMP, after a moment of  stagnation and doubt, I have the feeling that I’m making progress again. Thanks Phil! My objectives are getting updated and refined.

I am only progressively getting involved in the blogs and alliances. I still haven’t been able to really benefit from the Digital Solutions webinars. Lack of time again. I will use any time I find by mid 2018 to go through the replays and practice what is explained.

Crucially, what about the mental diet? Basically: 1st day astonishingly perfect, then 3 days opposite to perfect, and the 4th day a mix.  I’m kind of hopeful again…

At the end of the day I’m actually working hard, especially on top of my busy life, which means I miss a few hours sleep every week. Even then, I don’t manage to do it all, for me to fully benefit from the amazing resources that the MKE puts at our disposal.  But truly, I love the MKE work. It is a great support to each of my days. More importantly, my mind is pursuing its positive shift. Where all this will end is unknown…