Separation vs Connection
This past week was one of extreme contrast, at least that’s what I thought. Until I had a very powerful realization just a day ago.
I had been enjoying the fact that my immediate family, consisting of my two boys ages 26 and 23, and my daughter age 19, were all together with my wife and I for the Christmas holiday. It’s the first time we’ve all been together since my daughter’s graduation from High School last June. I had just sat down for a cup of coffee early in the morning at Starbucks and was ready to handle some emails that needed taken care of when the phone rang, it was my wife telling me to come back to our apartment. I could hear the upset in her voice, and the sound of a woman wailing uncontrollably. A young man who lived in the building had taken his life. His girlfriend found him hanging from a rope in his apartment.
I arrived to police cars, fire and rescue trucks, and a handful of people who were in shock. My wife and I stayed with the girlfriend, and did our best to console and comfort her in what was an inconsolable situation. She tried to tell us through her strong Russian accent what had been going on for him. He had been in a custody battle for his daughter with his ex-wife, and it was ugly. She said he didn’t have any friends, other than her. I never saw him at our building, only his car parked in the back of the building with his magnetic sign for his business on it. In 3 hours it was all over, the police had left, the coroner had left, the crime scene lab was gone. The only thing left was the memory of a young man who felt so separated from people, life, and love, that he chose to leave the world and his young daughter behind.
Later that afternoon as I was thinking about what had happened, it hit me. Something I read a long time ago about death and immortality. That separation was the energy of death, and connection was the energy of immortality. The more space we can remove between us, the closer we can come to immortality. The more space we can remove between us, the closer we can come to returning to that time when we were all connected to each other before physicality and the illusion of separation took over.
So my commitment is to pay attention, to do all I can and connect with everyone I encounter in some way. Do do my best to remove the illusion of separation.
“Wherever I go I bring a gift. I may bring a compliment, a prayer, a trinket, a flower…but I promise I will give something to every person I encounter!”
Wishing you all a happy and connected holiday season and miraculous New Year!